The Power of FourMar 13, 2020
This is a repost of an article that was first published on Cherished and Successful on 13 Mar 2020
After writing The Four Traits of a Cherished Muslimah, I started to notice things grouped in fours, everywhere!
It all started with flowers - when my editor Siema (may Allah bless her always) thought it would be a good idea, seeing as I used the metaphor of the Inner Garden in my book, to have a flower to represent each of the four traits.
And so - four flowers were chosen that represented the four traits:
- The lily, representing leadership, fertility and youthfulness
- The rose, representing love, of course.
- The gladiolus, representing justice – with the word originating from the word ‘gladius/sword’
- The iris, representing wisdom, and the rainbow journey of cloudy days and sunbeams
In April 2019, I attended a workshop on the Womb Healing, with herbalist Rabiah Mali from The Herbal Blessing Clinic, where I was blown away about how the womb goes through four seasons in each cycle:
- Winter: menstruation, a time to retreat and nourish
- Spring: pre-ovulation, a time to get organised
- Summer: ovulation, a time to manifest
- Autumn: pre-menstruation, a time for feedback
And then a few months later, I connected the dots and saw how the four traits fitted in seamlessly with the four seasons of the year, which also corresponded to the seasons of the womb!
- Spring – a season of leadership, new beginnings and purpose… and getting organised
- Summer – a summer of love, of course! A time to enjoy the fruits of one’s labour
- Autumn – a season of reflecting, sorting and winding down
- Winter – a season of wisdom, a time to rest and lie fallow
If the seasons weren't enough of a beautiful depiction of the Power of Four, then in steps the luminous moon! The moon takes us on a monthly journey as it also withdraws, brightens to its full glory and winds down. As humans, especially women, are affected by the light of the moon, this can help us understand ourselves better throughout our hormonal cycles.
- New Moon - where the moon withdraws into the darkness and rests
- Waxing Moon - where the moon starts to brighten and emerge
- Full Moon - where the moon is at its most magnificent with full lunar energy being radiated onto the world!
- Waning Moon - where the moon begins to wrap up and get ready to rest
And then, the cherry on the cake (or the crown on the bride!) was the morning I was reflecting on Our Lady Asiya (may Allah be pleased with her), the wife of the Pharoah, who only wanted Allah and asked Allah to build for her a house in paradise, in His presence.
My Lord! Build for me a home with thee in the Garden!
Surah Al-Tahrim (66:11)
As I tried to envisage what my home could possibly look like in Jannah, I was overwhelmed by this great Woman of God, and I began to think about The Four Queens of Paradise: Our Ladies Asiya, Maryam, Khadija and Fatimah (may Allah be pleased with all)
The Messenger of Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) drew four lines and said, ‘Do you know what these are?’ They said, ‘Allah and His Messenger know best.’
He said, ‘The best women of the women of Jannah are Khadeejah bint Khuwaylid,
Fatimah bint Muhammad, Maryam bint Imraan and Aasiyah bint Muzahim the wife of Pharaoh.’”
And as I thought how amazing these four ladies were, I wondered if any mother had four daughters named after these four queens? Would this mother have started as she meant to go on? How would she have known that she was to have four daughters? Would she perhaps have four daughters and later give them all a new middle name, after these four queens?
Well, I couldn’t do that, I thought. I didn’t have four daughters.
But hang on…
I had four traits!
And I realised immediately that they all fit in so well, SubhanAllah!
- Our Lady Fatimah – representing warrioress and youthful, springtime energy
- Our Lady Maryam – representing love – she was always in seclusion with Allah
- Our Lady Asiya – representing serene justice - the queen, of course
- Our Lady Khadijah – representing wisdom – she was our beloved Messenger of Allah’s ﷺ cherished, wise wife
How fascinating. I also made other connections, (such as the four elements of air, fire, water and earth and even the four khalifas: our masters Abu Bakr, Umar, Ali and Uthman), and even the four temperaments, yet one cannot delve into every connection, as someone wise once said:
Much more can be said, yet brevity is a sunnah.
Luqman al-Andalusi - The Life and Marriage of Fatimah Al-Zahra
It’s time to connect to ourselves, our traits, our wombs... and our queens - may we learn from them, emulate them and be with them in paradise!
Bas. Enough. Too long have I been separated from my beloveds!
يَكْفِي يَانُورَ الْأَهِلَّهْ
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